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Life is too short to be miserable. 03/22/11


The story of Evie…

Your Name: Yvonne Mickelson

Life is too short to be miserable.

That is my motto.

I have been big my whole life.

 I have been knocked around, made fun of and shunned. I have had my share of being bullied through school, etc. but through it all, I kept telling myself,

“I am better than that and I will succeed in whatever I decide to do with my life.”

I finished school, had a baby girl and married her father.

My whole life was a huge diet!

All I did was fight my weight.

It was like drowning every single day, coming up for air, being pushed under again..over and over!

I have done so many diets…Weight Watchers, TOPS, Jenny Craig type program, Dr. Bernstein, Grapefruit Diet, you name it, I have tried it and failed terribly.

In 1997, I was at my highest weight of 540 pounds.

I had the stomach stapling.

 I dropped 250 pounds over the next 2-3 years.

I found myself in a very destructive marriage and decided that I deserved better. I packed up my daughter, had a $100 in my pocket, filled my car with our clothes and moved to a new town.

I got myself a job, divorced my husband and life went on.

I met my soul mate in this new town!

He came into my life at the most perfect moment and opened my eyes to what love really could be. I didn’t think I would ever experience anything like this because of my weight issues.

In my experience, men (shallow men) just don’t like fat women, unless it’s to fulfill some kind of fantasy, etc.

In general, men want someone to show off! I was not that kind of woman.

This new man I met on line. He was different. I knew I loved him before I met him. He was beautiful inside and out. He knew everything about me before we actually met and my weight didn’t bother him in the least. He treated me like the beautiful woman I was (and still am). If I could make one wish for every woman, I wish a man like him for you all! He was and still is my saving grace! We will be celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary in October, 2011.

We have had our ups and downs but are extremely happy together. He stepped into our lives when we needed him the most.

My daughter had her father and she loved him (he is passed away now) but she has a connection with her step-father that is just incredible. They have a wonderful relationship. Not once has my daughter ever said to him…you are not my dad…and today, she calls him Dad.

Life has it’s ups and downs, sharp curves and bumpy roads but in the end my life has been a great one. I would not be here today if it were not for my bumpy roads.

I have learned through my years that weight is not everything.

Yes, I am still “fat” and I am slowly learning to accept it.

God has a path for me and I am living each day as it comes.

My goal is to live healthy and happy.

My weight is still a problem and I am trying each day to control it, but am learning to love myself the way I am and if I lose the weight I need to lose, all the better for me!

If I never lose this weight, and go to my maker this way, so be it.

I can honestly say my life has been a good one and I am proud of who I am today.

I love my husband deeply, I love my daughter whole and I love my family with every ounce of my being and to me that is all I need to be a success in life.

I don’t know if you can call this blog my life story, but it is how I feel today, at this very moment in my life.

My story may change from here but today, this is who I am and there is nothing wrong with that!

Thank you for the opportunity to share with you and I hope my story will help bring some light to someone else’s life.

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7 Responses to this article

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Ladyinpink April 8, 2011 Reply

Thank you for sharing your journey Evie. You truly are a beautiful, gracious, strong woman. You’re an inspiration to all of us. I always say God doesn’t make junk – we are perfectly made in His image. Our hearts and souls are far more important than the “outer shell”. I look forward to hearing from you again (I have a feeling we will). Stay well!

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KarenJ March 23, 2011 Reply

Hi Evie,
I agree with you, life is too short to be misrable. I also think that the world needs to become focussed less on “me” and more on “we”, in other words, one of my learnings has been to become less introspective and self critical and more focussed on what I can do to serve others. Making this shift has meant that things are falling into place. I thank you for your courage and wisdom and wish you every happiness. Karen xxxx

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evieluvsu April 8, 2011 Reply

Thank you for your lovely words Karen. <3

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muma ouch March 22, 2011 Reply

IT IS PEOPLE LIKE LIKE U THAT INSPIRE ME EVERYDAY…I HAVE TRAVELED THE SAME ROAD AND BEEN STANDING STRONG FOR ALMOST 20 YRS..DONT EVER FORGET WHERE U CAME FROM AND WHO U ARE NOW..THE NEGATIVE THINGS AND PEOPLE ARE STILL OUT THERE BUT U HAVE THE STRENGTH TO OVERCOME AND IGNORE….I AM SO PROUD OF U AND IM SURE UR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ARE TOO….WISHING U ALL THE BLESSINGS AND HAPPINESS IN THE WORLD….

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evieluvsu March 22, 2011 Reply

Thank you Muma for your love and support! Keep on smiling … that is the way to be…no sense in not smiling! C:

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YaYa March 22, 2011 Reply

Thanks so much for sharing, Evie! You have persevered through “thick & thin” (yeah, I know, grooooan!) & you’ve found a life filled with positivity, meaning, & good people surrounding you. We waste SO much of our life focussing/obsessing on these bodies of ours that we miss the many opportunities to grab happiness that ARE right in front of us! So gratifying & encouraging to see a woman who took hold of life & didn’t let go!
You are an amazing & beautiful woman.
Take care!

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evieluvsu March 22, 2011 Reply

Thank you YaYa for your wonderful words. I will most certainly keep your words in mind when I am feeling low and need a boost!! C:

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