Life is too short to be miserable. 03/22/11
Your Name: Yvonne Mickelson
Life is too short to be miserable.
That is my motto.
I have been big my whole life.
I have been knocked around, made fun of and shunned. I have had my share of being bullied through school, etc. but through it all, I kept telling myself,
“I am better than that and I will succeed in whatever I decide to do with my life.”
I finished school, had a baby girl and married her father.
My whole life was a huge diet!
All I did was fight my weight.
It was like drowning every single day, coming up for air, being pushed under again..over and over!
I have done so many diets…Weight Watchers, TOPS, Jenny Craig type program, Dr. Bernstein, Grapefruit Diet, you name it, I have tried it and failed terribly.
In 1997, I was at my highest weight of 540 pounds.
I had the stomach stapling.
I dropped 250 pounds over the next 2-3 years.
I found myself in a very destructive marriage and decided that I deserved better. I packed up my daughter, had a $100 in my pocket, filled my car with our clothes and moved to a new town.
I got myself a job, divorced my husband and life went on.
I met my soul mate in this new town!
He came into my life at the most perfect moment and opened my eyes to what love really could be. I didn’t think I would ever experience anything like this because of my weight issues.
In my experience, men (shallow men) just don’t like fat women, unless it’s to fulfill some kind of fantasy, etc.
In general, men want someone to show off! I was not that kind of woman.
This new man I met on line. He was different. I knew I loved him before I met him. He was beautiful inside and out. He knew everything about me before we actually met and my weight didn’t bother him in the least. He treated me like the beautiful woman I was (and still am). If I could make one wish for every woman, I wish a man like him for you all! He was and still is my saving grace! We will be celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary in October, 2011.
We have had our ups and downs but are extremely happy together. He stepped into our lives when we needed him the most.
My daughter had her father and she loved him (he is passed away now) but she has a connection with her step-father that is just incredible. They have a wonderful relationship. Not once has my daughter ever said to him…you are not my dad…and today, she calls him Dad.
Life has it’s ups and downs, sharp curves and bumpy roads but in the end my life has been a great one. I would not be here today if it were not for my bumpy roads.
I have learned through my years that weight is not everything.
Yes, I am still “fat” and I am slowly learning to accept it.
God has a path for me and I am living each day as it comes.
My goal is to live healthy and happy.
My weight is still a problem and I am trying each day to control it, but am learning to love myself the way I am and if I lose the weight I need to lose, all the better for me!
If I never lose this weight, and go to my maker this way, so be it.
I can honestly say my life has been a good one and I am proud of who I am today.
I love my husband deeply, I love my daughter whole and I love my family with every ounce of my being and to me that is all I need to be a success in life.
My story may change from here but today, this is who I am and there is nothing wrong with that!
Thank you for the opportunity to share with you and I hope my story will help bring some light to someone else’s life.
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